Mel Feller’s Grandpa's Tips for a successful marriage by Mel Feller

Mel Feller’s Grandpa's Tips for a successful marriage by Mel Feller

Mel Feller, who is based in both Texas and Utah, has been writing things down and before he knew it, what started out as a fun project to make his kids laugh turned into a long notebook story.  Now I want to share so my 20-year-old grandchild has some ideas even though her parents have been married a long time.

“I figured now that I have all this material, why share it with only one person when I could share it with the world and her.

Mel Feller gives quotes of wisdom scattered throughout his writings. Examples include:

Mel Feller’s Grandpa's Tips for a successful marriage

“Just think-of the billions of men in the world, your wife chose you. That is how special she thinks you are. Make it your life’s mission to prove her right.”

“Money can buy almost anything, but it cannot buy the love of a good woman.”

“Be careful what you confess to in a weak moment – women have a memory like an elephant.”

“I have no background or degree in psychology,” said Mel Feller, who does hold a master’s degree in business. “These are just my feelings from personal experience, and advice I think will foster a good relationship and a happy marriage.”

Here are six of my favorite pieces of advice as I write this:

There are some magical words that will help make a strong marriage. The first three are “I love you.” Two other words are “Thank you.” Another is, “I’m sorry.” Two other ones: “Yes, Dear.”

Remember that when you enter a marriage you are going from a single person to a team. So, instead of I, me and my, it is now we, us and ours.

If there are conflicts, a lose-lose situation is “I don’t care what happens to me as long as I destroy him or her.” A win-lose resolution is “Not only do I want to win, but I want my spouse to lose.” The goal should be a win-win situation, where both people come out feeling good. For example, let us say I want to go to a ballgame on a Saturday afternoon and she does not want to go. The win-win is, I go to the ballgame and you go shopping with your friends and let us meet up later for cocktails.

My wife asks regularly, “How does my hair look?” or “How does this blouse look?” Saying something positive is an opportunity to give a compliment and make her feel good.

A married couple develops their own language and secret code. It might be a touch, wink, sigh, voice inflection or word that has special meaning to them. It is one of the unique things about married life that forms a special bond between the couple.

To quote Winston Churchill, “Never, never, never give up.” That said, sometimes it is not possible to salvage a marriage, but at least try it before giving up on it.

I do not believe that marriage is easy, but that does not mean married couples cannot be happy, even blissful. I think staying happily married is sort of like a job. It takes effort to talk effectively, to plan dates, to be thoughtful and to make your partner feel cared for, special, important, adored, and respected. However, the key is, couples have to do these things for the right reasons. Not because they feel guilty or because it is expected, but because giving to that person is something they truly want and enjoy. There. That is my advice for my kids and grandkids.

All My Love Grandpa Mel Feller

Mel Feller Shows Grandfathers Can and Should Leave a Lasting Legacy by Mel Feller

Mel Feller feels that every child needs a dad. In addition, children benefit from the wisdom and influence of other men, over and above what their father can supply. Therefore, your grandkids will profit from the distinct advantages that you bring to their lives, which complement what your son or son-in-law can give them. Your work is not done, granddad. It has just become more enjoyable.

Mel Feller Shows Grandfathers Can and Should Leave a Lasting Legacy

According to the Proverb, “Children’s children are the crown of old men.” Grandfathers have a keen sense that they are leaving a legacy, and that can be very motivating and energizing. For many men, grandfathering is one of the most joy-filled roles they have ever had.

A UNIQUE RELATIONSHIP

Who can explain what happens between a grandparent and grandchild? The grandfather sits down with his grandchild and tells stories no one has heard before—or stories everyone has heard many times, but they still enjoy the telling. Alternatively, a child asks to see that trick where Grandpa somehow pulls his thumb apart, then puts it back together again. Others can try, but no one can do it quite like Grandpa.

Earlier, Grandpa complained that his back was acting up after he dragged thirty pounds of garbage out to the curbside. Now, he can hoist his granddaughter up for a hug without a second thought, without the slightest pain, almost effortlessly. Blake wants to go try to hook that big catfish in the creek, but he wants to wait until Grandpa can come, because only he knows where the “old monster” lives.

How do you explain it? You do not. You just enjoy it.

RELATING TO GRANDCHILDREN

As a grandfather, you bring a wealth of wonderful resources for your children to enjoy. What are the details of a relationship between a grandfather and his grandchild? At the risk of taking something magical, breaking it down and robbing it of its charm, here are some practical ideas:

Make Time. Time is one of your secret weapons as a grandfather; it sets you apart from most of the other influences in your grandchild’s life. You can be a reminder that there are worthwhile, memory-building pursuits that do not happen in a hurry: chess, reading, just sitting and talking, evening walks, breakfast out on Saturday mornings, or sitting on the porch swing and watching the sunset. Your hobby may be the key that unlocks a point of connection with your grandchild. Find the magic and mystery of a pocketknife or a pocket watch. Bring to life those features that make you the granddad that you are.

Do Little Things. Some of the best grandfathering comes in cards and letters that you send, maybe with a newspaper clipping or a small trinket that made you think of your grandchild. There are hundreds of little ways to communicate, “You’re special to me.” Consistently recognize your grandchild for good grades, or the ways she is showing her personal character. Reward her just for being the great kid that she is. Send an e-mail just to see how her day is going.

Inspire and Motivate. Your grandchild will have many teachers, coaches, and friends. There will be new challenges and risks around every corner. He will succeed in many ways, but he will also fail. He’ll need comfort, sometimes advice, and always someone to be positive and believe in him, no matter what. You can be a consistent, long-term source of encouragement through all the changes that come with growing up.

Be a Living Library. There is a saying: “When an elderly person dies, a library burns down.” Your grandchildren need a sense of family history. They need to hear your stories about what it was like growing up, about your grandparents, about what your sons and daughters (their parents) were like, about that old Chevy you used to drive, about “the good ol’ days.” When you tell stories about aunts and uncles, cousins and grandmas, you convey to them: “You are part of this family.”

Transmit Values. The world in which your grandchild is growing up probably has different—or at least changing—definitions for concepts like commitment, sacrifice, respect, honesty, responsibility, work, faith, even love. Passing on values can be one of your grandest roles as a granddad. A child will often feel pressure to behave or an ongoing power struggle with her mom and dad. However, with you, she can relax a little more. She may listen better and ask more thoughtful questions, like, “Grandpa, when Daddy was seven, was he like me?” “Did he have to clean up his plate?” Alternatively, maybe, “Why did Aunt Julie get a divorce?” She is trying to learn about her world, including school, her family, and relationships in general. You may have a unique opportunity to help shape her young mind. You may also see a chance to support her parents by pointing out all they do for her, as well as reinforcing their established limits and routines.

THE EXTRA MILE

During a National Center for Fathering essay contest, a nine-year-old named Jordan wrote this about his Grandpa:

Four months before I was born, my real father left my mommy. My Grandpa drove 400 miles to come get my mommy. He took care of her until I was born. When I came home from the hospital, there was a cradle that Grandpa made just for me. Someday, my kids will sleep in the same cradle.

When I was a baby, I cried a lot at night. Grandpa would walk me around and around the kitchen table. He rocked me to sleep and he was my first baby-sitter. Now I am nine years old and Grandpa is my best friend. We do many things together. We go to zoos, museums, and parks. We watch baseball games on TV and we have Chex Mix together, just the two of us.

When I was four, my Grandpa spent a whole summer building me a playhouse with a big sandbox underneath. He made me a tire swing and pushes me many times in it. He pushes me real high, way up over his head. Now he spends all his extra time building new rooms on our house so that Mommy and I will have our own apartment.

My Grandpa is really patient. When he is busy building things he always takes time to start a nail so that I can pound it in. After he is spent all day mowing our big lawn he is tired but he will still hook my wagon up to the lawn mower and drive me all over the place.

Sometimes people on TV talk about kids from single parent families. I am not one of them because I have three parents in my family. My Grandpa is not my Father, but I would not trade him for all the dads in the world.

As a dedicated grandfather, you have a lot to offer children in need. With the number of broken homes in our society, chances are good that you will find that child right in your own family. However, even if you do not, there is still a lot you can give to other single-parent families, abandoned children, or a family whose grandparents live far away. All of your grandfatherly assets can apply to children outside your family as well.

Granddad, building a lasting legacy is about investing in relationships with those who will be the leaders of the next generation—your children and grandchildren. They represent your greatest legacy, and one of your most significant contributions to the future.

Mel Feller loves being a grandpa.  He has four wonderful grandchildren and loves them equally.  His oldest is 20 and the youngest just turned 1 year old.

Mel Feller Explains How to Tell Personal and Family Stories with Confidence by Mel Feller

Mel Feller Explains How to Tell Personal and Family Stories with Confidence by Mel Feller

Mel Feller asks if you would, you like to make this a year to tell your family stories? Let these simple tips inspire you to put pen to paper. No one is more qualified to tell your family’s story than you are.  Mel Feller believes that family history is very important.  Family history is a great way to really understand your heritage.

Let’s Get Started the Mel Feller Way

Own Your Story

Mel Feller Explains How to Tell Personal and Family Stories with Confidence

You are absolutely the best person in the world to write your story and your family history. You are the only human being ever born to this earth who has your unique perspective and life experiences. You know all the details. You were there. J.K. Rowling could not tell your stories better than you can.

Tell Favorite Stories Aloud

One of the reasons my grandfather’s words came so alive for me is because my family members are all great verbal storytellers. They get together, reminisce, and repeat some of the same stories repeatedly. This practice adds structure to fragmented memories, making it easier to write them down later.

Make a Timeline of Major Life Events

In a notebook or a computer document, write down each year you have been alive. Leave a page or two between each year. Now start adding in all of the big turning points that divide your life into chapters: being born, going to school, moving, changing schools, reaching religious milestones, learning to drive, graduating, getting a job, changing jobs, getting married, having children. Unhappy events like divorces and deaths will make the list too. Jot down names, places, dates. If all you ever complete in your personal history is this list of major life events, that is a lot better than nothing is. If you are inspired to keep going, you will have a great framework for writing a thorough personal history.

Be Specific

Add as many relevant details as you can when sharing a memory. If you make a general statement, think about the evidence you would include if you had to prove you are telling the truth. For example, my cousin Natalie wrote, “I remember Grandpa always took very nice care of things.” If she had stopped there, it still would have been a true statement about Grandpa, but it became much more memorable when she added this detail: “If he used the weed eater, he’d wipe it off and put it back in the box.” Now that tells a story about just how careful and meticulous Grandpa was. Not only did he keep the original box for years and years, he also took the time to wipe off dirty lawn equipment before putting it away. I loved that detail; I can picture him doing exactly that.

Just Start

It does not matter how far behind you feel you are in capturing your personal history. Start somewhere, and start today. Even if you do not have time to delve deeply into the past right now, make a regular habit of capturing and collecting current thoughts and memories. The important thing is to capture them while they are still fresh; you can always organize and rearrange your memories later.

Mel Feller Urges You to Trigger Memories Authentically

Make a List of Stories to Tell

Not sure where to start with your personal or family history? Start by making a list of stories you want to write down eventually. Then elaborate on each of them, one by one. Think about the anecdotes you find yourself telling repeatedly like that disaster you narrowly avoided, that crazy coincidence, that one time you ran into a famous person. If anyone ever says, “Yeah, you told me that one before,” that is a clue the story is important to you. Add it to your list.

Forget About Chronology

I know I told you to make a timeline, but there is no rule that says you have to write your life story in chronological order. You can use the timeline for reference only, and then write your stories in any order you want. After all, you do not remember your life in chronological order. Memories tend to pop up at random, triggered by the strangest things. As you write your stories down, you can add whatever structure to your memories you want. Leave them in random order. Group them by person or place.

Use Memory Triggers

Photos, keepsakes, clothing, and other objects can be wonderful memory triggers. Look through photo albums at relatives’ homes and see what stories come to mind. Then add them to your list of stories to tell. Plan a visit to a neighborhood or city where you once lived. Walk around, notebook in hand, and see what memories surface.

Let Your Thoughts Percolate

It is hard to summon stories on demand; our memories just do not work that way. If you are using writing prompts or trying to answer a list of questions, read them at the beginning of the week. Then set them aside, and go about your life. You will be surprised what you can remember after you let a question marinate in your mind for a few days.

Gather Memories from Other People

Consult siblings, cousins, children, and other relatives to help round out your memories of a person or event. I am so grateful that many of my family members have written things down about my father and grandfather. Now we have a well-rounded picture of this man we all loved, from those who knew him as a young father and those who knew him as an aging grandfather, from those who saw him daily and those who visited a few times a year.

Keep It Simple

Use Your Handwriting

I already know what some of you are going to say. “But I have ugly handwriting. I hate my handwriting. Typing is so much easier.” Let me just ask you this: Have you ever encountered a recipe written in your grandmother’s hand and thought anything other than, “Wow, I miss her.” Your handwriting is unique to you. Your family will want to have some of your words written in your own hand. They will not judge you for sloppy or imperfect handwriting. They will treasure it as a piece of you.

Write the Way You Speak

Forget about formality and the rules of writing. Just do your best to allow your authentic voice to shine through the verbiage. The more your written words reflect the way you speak, the better. It can take years for even professional writers to find their own “voice” and feel truly at home with their style, so do not worry if you feel awkward with writing at first. If you still feel stuck, pretend you are telling the story aloud to a friend. Actually say each sentence aloud, and then write down what you said. It is that simple.

Don’t Stress about Grammar and Spelling

There is a saying I want you to repeat to yourself repeatedly: Do not let the perfect be the enemy of the good. What does that mean? Perfection is not the goal. If that is what you are aiming for, you will not get anything done at all. An imperfect life story that is written down is infinitely more valuable than a perfect story that is never told. So do not worry if you struggled diagramming sentences in school and cannot distinguish a subject from a predicate. If you know how to speak in coherent sentences, you will be able to write a coherent history, too.

Write in List Form

Lists are a great way to break up your prose, making it both easier to write and more fun to read. The options are endless. Here is a brief list of things you could make lists about in your journal:

Cities you have lived in

Schools you attended

Songs that remind you of high school

Favorite books or movies

Quotes or sayings your grandfather always said

Traits you inherited from your grandma

Recipes that remind you of home

Personal injuries and hospitalizations

Childhood mischief that you got away with

Pets your family owned

Make It Last

Make It a Regular Practice

The more you exercise your writing muscles, the easier and more naturally, your words will flow. Set aside a block of time once a week for journal writing, as the #52stories project encourages you to do. If that sounds overwhelming, write every other week or once a month instead. You could also pick one month a year (maybe your birthday month) where you write briefly every day—either about your current life or about your past or your family history. Do what you have to do to remove barriers and make journaling fit your lifestyle, even if that means carrying a small journal in your purse or writing your entire journal in a Notes file on your smartphone.

Keep Multiple Journals

Long-form, paragraph-style writing is just one-way to capture memories about your life. I have a journal like that, but I have other kinds of journals, too. I have a file on my smartphone where I capture spiritual insights and a-ha moments. I have miniature notebooks where I capture funny things my kids say. Several times in my life, I have used a blank wall calendar as a journal, writing one tiny memory a day inside those little squares.

Curate Your Own Writing

Everything you write about yourself counts, so collect it all together. If you give a presentation at work and you share a personal anecdote, pull that out of the presentation and save it in your personal history. If you share a personal experience in a Sunday school lesson, save it. If you speak at a family funeral, definitely save that. Comb through social media for stories you have already shared and save them in a more archival format.

Make Some of Your Stories Permanent

Some of the writing you do will be just for you and that is okay. However, some of your writing will really matter to someone else, like your account of the birth of your child, or your recollections of a beloved grandparent. Save your most important memories in the Family Search app, where all of the data is archived and backed up to the cloud. If it is a story about your grandfather, save it to his profile. If it is about your life, save it to your own profile. All stories remain private while the person is still living, but they will eventually be visible to the entire extended family.

It is Up to You

Do not let your self-doubts get in the way of preserving the important stories of your life. Do not let your insecurities keep you from helping your children and their children see your parents and grandparents the way that you saw them. There is no better time to start preserving your most important family stories. There is no better person to do it than you are.

Mel Feller Lists Some Very Creative Happy Birthday Wishes For Grandpa by Mel Feller

Mel Feller Lists Some Very Creative Happy Birthday Wishes For Grandpa 

Mel Feller knows that Birthday wishes for Grandpa should be unique and special. If you want your message to be special and have a deep meaning, you should go back to the moments you both spent together.

Birthday Wishes For Grandpa

Mel Feller Lists Some Very Creative Happy Birthday Wishes For Grandpa

Grandpas can do everything dads can do — Only they make it a whole lot more fun. Have a great birthday Grandpa!

You are the one who put the grand in Grandpa! Thanks for everything you do for all of us.

You give all of us the perfect example of how we should live our lives. Thank you for setting the bar so high.

Another year older and another year of great memories together! Have an awesome birthday Grandpa!

It’s your day today, Grandpa! I hope you enjoy each one more than the last, but this one the best.

How many candles? Do you need help blowing them out? We love you, Grandpa!

We have learned so much from you on our journey so far- thank you for it all, Grandpa. Happy birthday!

You make life so much better, Grandpa. We hope your day is extra special!

Your hugs are the best, so is your love, but it makes sense because so are you- best Grandpa!

You might be getting older, Grandpa, but I think you’re just getting better and better as time goes on!

I’m glad you are my Grandpa and I’m glad to be your Grandkid. Have a great day!

You must be a bottle of wine because you keep getting better with age, Grandpa.

Did you walk 5 minutes up hill and back in the snow to school, in the snow, Grandpa? If so, let me get me my boots, I want to be just like you.

Grandpa, you make a lot of people smile when you enter a room, but especially me.

Grandpa, another year is done. That means you are another year wiser, funnier and even more special to me.

They say people are “as old as the hills” but you must’ve seen them being made, Grandpa. Congrats on another year!

You inspire me so much that if I really had to be you or Batman I would still choose you. Have a super birthday!

Every time I visit you I leave with a smile on my face. Thank you for sharing the wonderful times in your life. Happy Birthday Grandpa!

You’ve worked hard and played hard in your life and have passed all of those values on to us. Thank you and happy birthday.

Special Birthday Wishes

Memories with your grandparents are something we should all cherish. Thank you for giving me so many grandpa!

Just because you always win when we play games doesn’t mean you’re the best. (Oh, wait. You most certainly are!)

You show us that you love us all in so many ways. You don’t even have to say it and we know. What a gift to have you for a grandpa.

So many great times… years of great memories… thousands of great days…how lucky I am to have such a great Grandpa.

There are thousands of grandpas in the world. But I have the best one of them all. All of my best memories start with, “Don’t tell Grandma….” (Your secrets are safe with me.)

If I become half of the person that you are Grandpa, I know that I will be someone very special and unique. Because that’s what you are. Happy Birthday!

Fishing stories with your grandfather are the best ones to tell. Even if they are only ‘mostly’ true.

Grandmas might do the best cooking, but Grandpas do all of the best spoiling. Thanks for spoiling me all of these years.

I can’t imagine my life without you as my grandfather. I think I got pretty lucky. I love you.

Celebrating your birthday with you is such a special honor. I love having you in my life Grandpa. Happy Birthday!

It’s your birthday! What a great way to celebrate a great man. Happy Birthday! I hope you have a wonderful day.

Grandpa, are you as old as the hills? Because you might be as old as the hills, plus the trees, plus the dirt!

When you blow out the candles today, it just means that you are another year into being someone I love so much, Grandpa.

Put me on a plane, put me on a train- however I can get there to wish you a happy birthday, Grandpa

Grandpa, you have always been there for me and you will never know how much that means to me. For now, I hope the cake and candles will do!

I hope I live as long as you, Grandpa. I want to be as awesome as you are one day.

It’s so cool having my own super hero- super Grandpa!

“Can you hear me? Yes? Why do I ask? I just wanted to say I love you, Grandpa”

Nothing can make me happier than the time we spend together, Grandpa. It means so much to me, especially on your special day!

Grandpa, I have listened to your stories, I have seen the pictures, I have learned a lot and I have enjoyed every moment spent with you

Nothing beats the time we spent sitting on the porch, Grandpa- here’s to many more slow, lazy days together. Enjoy your special one!

Grandpa, I feel magic when you are around and when we spend time together. I hope you have a magical birthday!

It’s a great day for a great guy to have a great birthday. Enjoy your day, Grandpa!

Grandpa, you are one of my favorite people in this world and I hope this year is one of your favorites!

Grandpa, you are the coolest guy I know and I want you to know it, so I hope you have the best day on your special one!

I know I’ve told you how much I love you. But today is the perfect time to say it again. Hope your birthday is perfect.

Guess who is having a birthday? Just one of the greatest men I know. You! Happy Birthday!

More Cute Birthday Wishes For Grandpa

You have taught me so much and helped mold me into what I am, Grandpa. I am glad to have this life with you in it.

Grandpa, I cherish all the time we spend together and I hope your birthday is just as special as everyday together is to me.

Grandpa, hearing of your childhood takes me back to mine- happy birthday to my favorite story teller.

We love you for your heart, your encouragement and so much more, grandpa.

How many ways do I love you? More than the candles on your cake today, Grandpa!

How many ways do I love you? So much more than you know, especially on your special day, Grandpa.

Grandpa, the times may be changing and things may be moving fast, but you will always have the same spot in my heart- happy birthday!

Grandpa, your heart is full and makes ours so happy as well. Day by day, you make it better for all of us, so let us celebrate you on your special day!

Grandpa, you are proof that simple times were better times, so here is a simple message for your special day- enjoy it!

If it isn’t broke, don’t try and fix it. There’s no need to try and change how amazing of a grandpa you are — have a great birthday!

Your past is so amazing, Grandpa, and I love how much you have molded me and my future. Here’s to more love, wisdom and special time together!

Even though you may not be able to lift the heaviest things, you are the strongest person I know, Grandpa. Thank you for showing me that strength year after year- and now for another!

Let us bake the cake, light the candles and sing the song- and shower you with even more love today, Grandpa.

Grandpa, all of the hours we have spent together cannot ever equal how much I have learned from you and your wisdom. So, blow out the candles on another year and share some more with me!

If someone was to ask who I learned the most from, the answer is you, Grandpa. Thank you for your lessons and memories- now let’s make some more!

Your birthday has come around again, Grandpa. That simply means we get to send even more love your way today.

You’ve taught me so much over the years. You’ve been a perfect example of how to live a good and honest life.

Happy Birthday Grandpa! Hope you have a birthday filled with everything you love in life.

Happy Birthday to one of the classics! Enjoy every minute of your special day Grandpa!

Just because you love the oldies — doesn’t mean you are one. Happy Birthday to the coolest Grandpa 

around!

I love all of the times I get to spend with you. Whether we are working or playing it’s always memorable. Grandpa I love you so much!

Grandpa — You have been one of the most important people in my life. Nothing will ever change that.

Grandpa, thanks for being the wonderful person you are. I hope someday I am just like you. Happy Birthday to the most special person in my life!

I love You Grandpa. My everyday encyclopedia about life’s tips. Have a lovely day.

I swear I will never stop to love every one of your wrinkles. Happy Birthday Grandfather.

To the person who can laugh with me to tears and smile with me into the darkest of my day. Happy birthday Grandpa.

Talk to you is still better than 2000 hours of therapy. Have an amazing birthday Grandpa!

I was grown by the true Superman. Thank you Granddad, best birthday wishes.

You were there for me when I didn’t know how to do things, I will be there for you when you will need support in doing them better. Happy birthday Granddad.

Second to no-one, always the winner of my heart. Happy birthday Grandfather.

To a man who will never be too old for anything. Have a great day Grandpa.

You will always be my fearless hero. Happy Birthday Granddad.

Not just my Grandpa but a father, a brother and a best friend. Thank you, have an amazing birthday!

Royal, Excellent, with no equals … my Grand — father. I love you, happy birthday !

You showed me how to take care of those who are weaker. Have a special and happy birthday Grandpa.

You taught me what I truly needed to know in life, Grandpa. You will never know how much that time, care and compassion has meant to me, but I hope I can share that back with you today on your birthday!

One year more, thousands units of wisdom gained and you still smile as a child. Have a wonderful birthday Grandpa.

All times I see you I feel safe, even into the wildest storm. Happy Birthday granddad.

I could never find a gift precious enough to thank you for all the time you’ve been my safe-port. Have a lovely Birthday Grandpa.

To a grumpy, old, weak …. Just joking. To my beloved and amazing Granddad, all the best wishes.

Thanks to our relationship as grandfather and grand-kid I know how to walk and you know how to use Skype. Happy birthday team-player!

For the never boring, never predictable, never banal man who is my idol. Happy B-Day grandpa.

Always the coolest around, always the wise friend I need. Have a special day!

We’ve been together for all my life, let’s go for another year. All the best wishes for your birthday Grandpa.

I’ve learned how to be a princess directly from a king. Royalty is a family issue! Have a regal day!!

Thank You for teaching me how to speak my mind even with a joke. Have a fun birthday Grandpa.

From the young leave to the strong root: Happy Birthday granddad.

As all best wines, age touch you just to make you better. Have a charming day grandpa.

Mel Feller Has More Great Grandfather Quotes by Mel Feller

Mel Feller Has More Great Grandfather Quotes by Mel Feller

Mel Feller Has More Great Grandfather Quotes

Mel Feller feels that these are great quotes about Grandpas. It is well known that grandpas are usually our best friends. Mel Feller still loves and misses his grandfather.

Abraham Lincoln had a grandfather named Abraham Lincoln, who was also shot and killed.

Lovingly called grandpa, your mother or father’s old man is definitely your confidante, and best friend. In him, you see the wisdom of a sage as well as the reflection of your own innocence. Being so close to you, and sharing your most intimate space, he automatically becomes your very first trusted friend.

Needless to say, grandparents and both sets of them are a blessing in disguise. However, it is commonly seen that while a grandmother gets busy preparing sweet treats and goodies for the grandchild, it is the grandfather who makes time to run around and play with the young kids. Grandfathers in that sense are equated to tons of fun.

A granddad, as he is so-called, is solely because he is definitely a step higher than a dad. Here’s a collection of quotes and sayings that can be used to celebrate your wonderful relationship with your grandfather.

“You’ve got to do your own growing, no matter how tall your grandfather was.”

―Irish Sayings

“My grandfather always said that living is like licking honey off a thorn.”

―Louis Adamic

“My grandfather once told me that there are two kinds of people: those who work and those who take the credit. He told me to try to be in the first group; there was much less competition.”

―Indira Gandhi

“Perfect love sometimes does not come until the first grandchild.”

―Welsh Proverb

“Grandfathers are just antique little boys.”

―Author Unknown

“Grandchildren don’t stay young forever, which is good because Pop-pops have only so many horsey rides in them.”

―Gene Perret

“A grandfather is someone with silver in his hair and gold in his heart.”

―Author Unknown

“Grandfathers are for loving and fixing things.”

―Author Unknown

“To a small child, the perfect granddad is unafraid of big dogs and fierce storms but absolutely terrified of the word ‘boo’.”

―Robert Brault

“The best place to be when you’re sad is Grandpa’s lap.”

―Author Unknown

“One of the most powerful handclasps is that of a new grand baby around the finger of a grandfather.”

―Joy Hargrove

“Every generation revolts against its fathers and makes friends with its grandfathers.”

―Lewis Mumford

There are fathers who do not love their children; there is no grandfather who does not adore his grandson.”

―Victor Hugo

“Grandfather, Great Spirit, once more behold me on earth and lean to hear my feeble voice.”

―Black Elk

“More and more, when I single out the person out who inspired me most, I go back to my grandfather.”

―James Earl Jones

“My grandfather was a man, when he talked about freedom, his attitude was really interesting. His view was that you had obligations or you had responsibilities, and when you fulfilled those obligations or responsibilities, that then gave you the liberty to do other things.”

―Clarence Thomas

“A grandfather is not just a role model, but also a great friend.”

―Author Unknown

“Grandfathers are magicians who create wonderful memories for their grandchildren.”

―Author Unknown

“All grandfathers possess a limitless amount of interesting stories gathered from the past.”

―Author Unknown

“Grandfathers are wonderful because they listen and show genuine interest in what you have to say.”

―Author Unknown

“A grandfather finds both joy and peace in his heart each time a new grandchild is born.”

―Author Unknown

“My grandfather was so wonderful because he let me be a kid and even joined in on the fun.”

―Author Unknown

“My grandfather has the wisdom of an owl, the sense of humor of a headless chicken, and the heart of an angel.”

―Author Unknown

“In the eyes of their grandchildren, grandfathers are professional pranksters and veteran comedians.”

―Author Unknown

“Grandfathers are known to act silly, especially on their birthdays.”

―Author Unknown

“Even on their birthdays, grandfathers refuse to be honest about their age.”

―Author Unknown

“A grandchild is the best birthday gift you could ever give a grandfather.”

―Author Unknown

“Grandfathers get way with twice as much on their birthdays.”

―Author Unknown

“Each year, I give my grandfather a birthday card with an age a few years below his actual. You’d be amazed how this intentional mistake energizes him.”

―Author Unknown

“Granddaughters look to their grandfathers for comic relief.”

―Author Unknown

“Granddaughters use grandfathers as their entourage in both real life and their imaginary fairytales.”

―Author Unknown

“Grandfathers have a really tough time saying no to their granddaughters.”

―Author Unknown

“Granddaughters may always depend on their grandfathers. They’ll take them shopping when they’re kids and pick them up from a club at 3am when they’re a bit older.”

―Author Unknown

“I was taught by my grandfather that anything that your mind can conceive, you can have. It’s a reality.”

―Lenny Kravitz

“An amazing adventure is always moments away whenever a grandfather and his grandson get together.”

―Author Unknown

“Every grandson enjoys being his grandfather’s sidekick.”

―Author Unknown

“Grandsons dream of being old and wise just like their grandfathers. Grandfathers dream of being young and energetic just like their grandsons.”

―Author Unknown

“A grandfather and his grandson are able to communicate without uttering a single word. The tools required to accomplish this include: 2 fishing rods and a tackle box.”

―Author Unknown

“Grandfathers teach their grandsons about life one sling shot at a time.”

―Author Unknown

“A great grandfather is an immobile source of disposable income.”

―Author Unknown

“My great grandfather tried to get a job at a skincare company. They said no, but gave him 10 bucks for his before shot.”

―Author Unknown

“You don’t need a history book if you’re fortunate enough to have a great grandfather.”

―Author Unknown

He can make you gurgle and squeal with peals of laughter with his antics and yes, drive away any traces of blue even when you are older. I for one have had the pleasures of being loved, spoiled, and cared for by a wonderful granddad.

Mel Feller Gathers Some Of The Best Grandpa Quotes by Mel Feller

Mel Feller Gathers Some Of The Best Grandpa Quotes by Mel Feller

Mel Feller loves quotes. They help when you are sad, they help when you are happy but more importantly they help you remember your grandpa! Use these wise, touching, and funny grandpa quotes for any celebration you like.

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Mel Feller Gathers Some Of The Best Grandpa Quotes

“One of the most powerful handclasps is that of a new grandbaby around the finger of a grandfather.” — Joy Hargrove

“There are fathers who do not love their children; there is no grandfather who does not adore his grandson.” — Victor Hugo

“My grandfather was a wonderful role model. Through him I got to know the gentle side of men.” — Sarah Long

“The closest friends I made all through life have been people who also grew up close to a loved and loving grandmother or grandfather.” — Margaret Mead

“Every generation revolts against its fathers and makes friends with its grandfathers.” — Lewis Mumford

“Grandfathers do have a special place in the lives of their children’s children. They can delight and play with them and even indulge them in ways that they did not indulge their own children. Grandfather knows that after the fun and games are over with his adorable grandchildren he can return to the quiet of his own home and peacefully reflect on this phenomenon of fatherhood.” — Alvin Poussaint

“I want to die in my sleep like my grandfather — not screaming and yelling like the passengers in his car.” — Wil Shriner

“Our land is everything to us…. I will tell you one of the things we remember on our land. We remember that our grandfathers paid for it — with their lives.” — John Wooden

“My grandfather once told me that there were two kinds of people: those who do the work and those who take the credit. He told me to try to be in the first group; there was much less competition.” — Indira Gandhi

“I come from a long line of fighters. My maternal grandfather was the toughest guy I ever knew. World War II veteran, killed 20 men, then spent the rest of the war in an Allied prison camp. My father battled blood pressure and obesity all his life. Different kind of fight.” — Dwight Schrute (Rainn Wilson), The Office

“CJ, let me tell you something, don’t ever, ever underestimate the will of a Grandfather. We’re madmen, we don’t give a damn; we got here before you and they will be here after you. We’ll make enemies, we’ll break laws, we’ll break bones, but you will not mess with the grandchildren!” — President Josiah Bartlet (Martin Sheen), The West Wing

“You know, when I was nine, maybe ten, my grandfather… he would wave me over, and he would do this all the time, and then he’d say “Lee, be a good boy. Just don’t be too good.” — Battlestar Galactica

“My grandfather lived to be 94. He never ate anything a rabbit would eat.” — Charlie’s Angels

Unknown

“Grandfathers are just antique little boys.”

“A grandfather is someone with silver in his hair and gold in his heart.”

“Grandfathers are for loving and fixing things.”

“Grandpas bring a little wisdom, happiness, warmth, and love to every life they touch”

“Grandpa has ears that truly listen, arms that always hold, love that’s never-ending, and a heart that’s made of gold.”

“A grandfather is someone you can look up to no matter how tall you grow.”

“Only the best dads get promoted to grandpa”

Mel Feller Reminds You That You Should Have Questions to Ask Your Grandpa Before It’s Too Late by Mel Feller

Mel Feller Reminds You That You Should Have Questions to Ask Your Grandpa Before It’s Too Late by Mel Feller

Mel Feller Reminds You That You Should Have Questions to Ask Your Grandpa

Mel Feller knows that when a loved one passes away, it is not just their presence you miss. Along with their smile, their kindness, generosity and voice, the individual stories and memories that make up that individual are lost as well. With all the ways that currently exist to record and preserve memories, do not wait until it is too late to record the important information your grandfather has to share. Mel Feller has lost all four of his grandparents and his brother whom he wishes he could still visit with all of them. A sadness is never filled by any other people!

A study found that “the more children knew about their family’s history, the stronger their sense of control over their lives, the higher their self-esteem and the more successfully they believed their families functioned.”

To get the best information, and maybe even some new stories you have never heard, you will find the more specific the questions, the better.

Here is a list of questions to ask your grandpa the next time you visit.

Childhood

Little details about the past and how children played are a piece of history. With the changing generations, technology, and other factors, you might find your grandfather had a completely different childhood than you. Then again, some things never change.

What games were popular when you were a kid?

Tell me about your best friend growing up? Have you kept in touch? What was special about this person?

Do you remember any particular sadness in your growing up years? Were there any tragedies or events that shaped you?

What types of things did you do as a kid that kids of the newer generation don’t do anymore (paper route, etc.)?

What is the fondest memory you have of your mother and father? Grandfathers and grandmothers?

Jobs and hobbies

Information about your grandpa’s career, jobs, and hobbies can give you an idea of how they spent their time. However, if you find that they are lonely or feeling bored, knowing what activities they found joy in can give your ideas for activities you participate in with them today.

6. What was your first job? What did you like about it? What did you hate about it? Any stories from that job that stand out to you?

Did you go to college? What did you study? Did you graduate? Any stories about college friends, professors, or trips?

What hobbies have you had that brought you joy? Did you collect anything (stamps, rocks, coins, etc.)?

Did you enjoy reading, writing, or creating art? What was the first book you can remember loving?

As a child, what were your career aspirations? Did that change, as you got older? Why?

Family and friends

Have you asked your parents or grandparents how they met or what their courtship was like? Stories and memories of dating can inspire sweet and funny memories.

How did you and your spouse meet? What were your other dating experiences like? How did you know your spouse was the one to marry?

As an adult, did you have any close friends who you have kept in touch with? Think about the friends who influenced your life and why they were important to you.

Name one thing about each of your kids (if you have them) that stuck out to you as they were growing up.

Name something about raising children that changed from your first child to your last.

Places you have lived

While your grandfather may have lived his life in the same home as his parents, there may be details you did not know or expect. Learn about their travels and experiences both at home and away.

What do you remember about your childhood home? Where did you grow up, and where do you consider your hometown?

Did you ever move? What were your feelings when you moved? How many different places did you live?

Name each place you lived and one memory of each place that shaped your life?

Of all the places you have lived, which was your favorite? Which was the saddest?

Where would you have liked to live but never got there?

How do you want your family and friends to remember you? Of all the ways people could describe you, what words or thoughts would you like to leave with them?

What are you most proud of in your life? Any relationship or professional achievements?

How has your faith or spirituality changed throughout your life? Where did you start, and where are you now?

Was there any experience or event in your life that you did not think you would make it through? How did you persevere, and what did that experience teach you?

What was the kindest thing you have done for someone else?

Speaking with your loved ones about their lives is a way to record the pieces of your family history that live only with them. Beyond the record that these conversations create, talking to your grandpa will strengthen a relationship with him now, and you will have plenty of stories to share with your children. Moreover, that is enough reason to pick up the phone or drive over and connect now.