Mel Feller Looks at Being a Grandpa and Keeping up with Young Grandkids

Mel Feller Looks at Being a Grandpa and Keeping up with Young Grandkids

Mel is the President/Founder of Mel Feller Seminars with Coaching for Success 360, Inc. and Mel Feller Coaching. Mel Feller a Texas- Utah Innovator and Investor. Currently an MBA Candidate.

Mel Feller Looks at Being a Grandpa

Sit in the bleachers at any Little League or Soccer game and you will see almost as many grandparents as parents cheering on the teams. Grandparents have an unequaled enthusiasm for attending and participating in activities, sports and fitness opportunities with their grandchildren, especially grandpa!

As I think of my own life, it may be the additional time that grandpas have after their own children are grown and out of the house or the excitement in sharing an interest or hobby with a younger person. On the other hand, maybe we as grandpas just have more energy when the time spent with an overactive grandchild is limited and that they will be going home afterward. Whatever the reason, grandpas, just want to be a kid again, seem to be very much a part of the activities of their grandchildren.

Grandpas Need to Be a Role Model

With the many recent reports of increased obesity among children in our society, it is very important for grandpas to encourage increased activity in their grandchildren’s daily lives. Poor nutrition and a sedentary lifestyle lead to overweight and unfit children. Grandpas can improve those statistics with activities that increase their grandchildren’s fitness levels beginning at an early age and continuing to adulthood.

Those activities may vary depending on the age of the child and the interests of both the grandpa and the grandchild. For example, a baby is perfect for a nice walk with a stroller or jogger. All of the new equipment available for babies these days allows ease in walking, running and bike riding. Baby no longer inhibit daily exercise, but rather enhances the experience. I know that when my oldest granddaughter Rachael was small it was daily wagon rides from grandpa’s house to her house! It helped that my daughter and son-in-law lived a few houses up the street. Oh those memories!

For another great experience with grandchildren this age, try a trip to the park. All the climbing, digging and swinging is just right for an active toddler. Some supervision is required of course, but much of the enjoyment comes from watching. I would attend my youngest daughters Soccer games and slip over with Rachael to play. Older children gladly participate as well. There is always something to try when a swing and slide are involved. It is also a great place to meet other grandpas.

As the grandchildren grow older, there are many more activities, and grandpas are great teachers. They are more than willing to share their own interests and talents with their grandchildren whether it is in golf, bowling, ping-pong, tennis or especially fishing. All of these are activities that grandchildren relish with enthusiasm and carry with them the rest of their lives. How many adults claim they first were first introduced to a sport or a particular skill from a grandpa? Many grateful adults learned skills they use throughout their lifetimes from patient grandpas who always have something to share.

Moreover, how many grandchildren remember a weekend of camping and fishing with grandpas? There are so many activities that grandpas are able to share with grandchildren, providing not only hours of fun but also educational opportunities as well.

Grandpas You Must Show Your Support

Of course, there is nothing quite as special as having grandpa in the cheering section during a game. Whether it is a game of soccer, football, basketball, baseball or a dance recital, grandpas make the event extra special. It is not only a time for pride and cheers but also an opportunity to meet other parents and grandparents who share the same experience. It is a time to socialize and build memories!

As the grandchildren get older, fitness activities bring an even more special bond. Those activities become a time to talk, share and become acquainted with that unique and special person known as your grandchild. Walks, sporting events, both as spectator and as participant, games of chess, badminton, dancing or horseshoes provide an opportunity for conversation.

I fully believe that grandpas are special people for teens and young adults, not only for their inspiration and their support but also for their advice and teaching. Teens will listen to a grandpa even when they are reluctant to hear a parent’s opinion. Fitness activities are the perfect openings for conversations about important topics regarding life.

Therefore, whenever grandpas and grandchildren are involved in activities, remember it is about bonding, sharing knowledge, appreciation, conversation and pride as well as fitness. That is why I love being a grandpa!!

Mel Feller, MPA, MHR

Mel Feller, MPA, MHR, is a well-known real estate, business consultant, personal development consultant and speaker, specializing in performance, productivity, and profits. Mel is the President/Founder of Mel Feller Seminars with Coaching For Success 360, Inc. and Mel Feller Coaching, a real estate and business specific coaching company. His three books for real estate professionals are systems on how to become an exceptional sales performer. His four books in Business and Government Grants are ways to leverage and increase your business Success in both time and money! His book on Personal Development “Lies that Will Sabotage Your Success”. Mel Feller is in Texas and In Utah. However, the greatest accomplishment is being a grandpa!

Mel Feller Looks at Grandpa’s Rules

Mel Feller Looks at Grandpa’s Rules

Mel is the President/Founder of Mel Feller Seminars with Coaching for Success 360, Inc. and Mel Feller Coaching. Mel Feller a Texas- Utah Innovator and Investor. Best of all a Father and a Grandpa.

Mel Feller Looks at Grandpa’s Rules

In my grandpa’s day, it was understood that children had certain responsibilities as members of the family. They “earned” their privileges by fulfilling their responsibilities first. The idea behind this rule is that you acknowledge something the child would like to do as the second step in a process. You define the first step as a chore, action or activity that must be done before the privilege is granted.

The benefits to this approach are threefold. First, your request is very specific, and thus can be understood by your child. Second, you are acknowledging your child’s wants and needs at the same time that you are stating your wants and needs. Third, you are approaching the issue in a way that invites your child to cooperate. Here is how it works:

You may ________ after you __________.

You may play outside after you do the dishes.

You may watch a movie after you do your homework.

We will read a story after you put your pajamas on.

As soon as you scoop the cat litter, you can play your new computer game.

An added benefit to using Grandpa’s Rule is that it eliminates the need to use “fighting words.” Fighting words are those that start a battle even before the rest of the sentence is heard — words such as, you cannot, Do not, No and Stop!

Notice how the choice of words affects the feeling conveyed by these requests:

You cannot go outside until you finish your homework.

Yes, you can go outside just as soon as you finish your homework.

Do not eat that cookie until after your dinner.

Yes, you can have a cookie right after dinner.

No, you cannot go to Jimmy’s house.

You can go to Jimmy’s house on Saturday, after soccer practice.

As you can see, Grandpa’s rule allows you to use positive communication while being very specific about what you want. Moreover, the best thing is — it works!

Mel Feller, MPA, MHR

Mel Feller, MPA, MHR, is a well-known real estate, business consultant, personal development consultant and speaker, specializing in performance, productivity, and profits. Mel is the President/Founder of Mel Feller Seminars with Coaching For Success 360, Inc. and Mel Feller Coaching, a real estate and business specific coaching company. His three books for real estate professionals are systems on how to become an exceptional sales performer. His four books in Business and Government Grants are ways to leverage and increase your business Success in both time and money! His book on Personal Development “Lies that Will Sabotage Your Success”. Mel Feller is in Texas and In Utah. However, the greatest accomplishment is being a grandpa!

Mel Feller and Multiple Secrets To Success

Mel Feller and Multiple Secrets To Success

Mel is the President/Founder of Mel Feller Seminars with Coaching for Success 360, Inc. and Mel Feller Coaching.  Mel Feller maintains offices in Texas, Oklahoma and in Utah.

Like you, leadership expert and business author Mel Feller has seen the word leadership defined numerous ways over the years. Is it charisma and positive thinking? Pinstripes and red power ties? Decisiveness? Is it all about the situation? Is it meant only for the elite who rise to the top? Alternatively, is there a different story?

With over three decades of executive coaching, speaking, and most importantly, real-life, in-the-trenches business experience, his view is radically different.  Mel Feller appreciates, and shares with listeners, that leadership is a moment-to-moment choice and not about title, tenure or position. Leadership is for everyone, every day. It is how we should live our life

Mel Feller sometimes referred to as the “Provocateur” for his ability to stir up a group or as the “People Whisperer” for his coaching skill that brings out the best in people, is known for his practical, street-savvy style; Mel Feller’s fusion of real-life stories and his conversational techniques connect with his audience at an intimate, intense and individual level.

He has shared the stage with U.S. Presidents Reagan, Bush and Clinton, U.S. Senators Jake Garn, Ted Kennedy, Robert Byrd, Orrin Hatch, John Glenn and Bob Dole. Hollywood stars such as Martin Sheen, Ben Johnson, John Agar, Royal Dano and Harry Cary Jr., and business greats such as Zig Ziglar, Robert Kiyosaki, Charles Givens, Tom Hopkins, Stephen Covey, Adam Ginsberg and Susie Orman. Mel also hosts his own radio show in Texas called “Multiple Secrets to Success” that focuses on both personal and professional tools in order to excel in life and business.

Mel Feller has over three decades of coaching and consulting experience in diverse industries, which provides a rich framework for his organizational insights and creative solutions. He brings a thoughtful approach to his work, carefully integrating both his coaching and consulting skills and abilities. When consulting, his focus is on “what you are doing” (i.e., goal setting, problem solving, taking action and achieving results). When coaching, his focus is on “who you are being” (i.e., how you are leading, aligning your values and tapping your gifts). As a client, you will become more consciously aware of how paying attention to – and balancing both – are critically important to your success.