Mel Feller
Illustrates Why Grandpas are the Family’s Well Being Net by Mel Feller
Mel Feller know that to numerous children, grandpas really
are "grand” as in outstanding and wonderful. After all, Grandpa is
constantly happy to see them, let them stay up late and sleep in, buy them a
beloved toy, and listen attentively as they recount their daydreams and their
disappointments. Moreover, Grandpa always revels in their grandchild's
presence, and vice-versa.
Mel Feller points out that "Grandpas and grandchildren
are kind of hard-wired to connect in ways very different from parents and
children," this according to Dr. Arthur Kornhaber, founder and president
of the Foundation for Grandparenting, a nonprofit organization committed to
promoting the importance of grandparenthood. "They have this adoration and
unconditional love and joy in one another's existence."
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| Mel Feller Illustrates Why Grandpas are the Family’s Well Being Net |
Grandpas are not burdened by the fundamental judgment that
parents face: namely, that a child's behavior reflects their efficiency as
parents. In principle, grandpas are unrestricted to appreciate their
grandchildren. Although today's grandpas may have busy lives, they are not as
likely to be overscheduled as their sons
and daughters. "They have time to spend with their grandchildren, and
their grandchildren know this. Truth be told, Grandpas strive to do everything
in their power to make time because they realize how important time is in
spending that with their grandkids.
Moreover, sometimes, the grandchildren shift their priorities in order to
be with their grandpas. In addition, the
World War 2 stories intrigue them. Even
about my own dad who was in the Korean Conflict and how he was never able to
come to grips with it.
Grandpas also provide children with a deep linking to the
family's past. They are able to give kids a sense of where they came from, a
defining element in their identity. "Grandpas are the keepers of the
family history. I know that in my own
family, that I am the one that brings out the photo albums of what the family
is like. I have found that has become a family ritual because my grandkids have
a natural curiosity about the old days, they like hearing stories, for example,
about a grandfather's journey from Germany in which he endured a week or more
of sea travel on a ship.
Mel Feller has also spoken to many hundreds of grandparents
and especially grandpas and has discovered that the majority of children also
like to hear stories about when their parents were small, especially with the
parent present in the discussion. The
reason is because these stories tend to make the parents more humane. In other words, in the children’s eyes, the
30-, 40-, or 50-year-old parent is transformed into a child of 6, or 10, or
14. Parents are relatable and seen as
having the same or very similar experiences.
According to Kornhaber, "Kids can learn from
grandparents what they can't learn from anybody else." This kind of
learning can include crafts or skills that are not readily taught today, such
as whittling wood or gardening. It also means learning about life as grandpas
share their experiences, which made them who they are today. They love the
experiences of their grandpas because they are a living testimony to the
resiliency of the problems and the times that they faced. Bottom line is that grandpas have withstood
the challenges of life and are able to help the grandchildren in overcoming
their challenges. In sharing their past conflicts and inner doubts, they are saying
to their grandchildren, I know you are going to stumble, but in a little while
you are going to be a success.
Finally, grandpas can also be models for parents in the area
of nurturing a child's sense of self-esteem. Mel Feller has learned that
parents who observe their grandpas taking the time to listen to a grandchild's
new music CD or lending a compassionate ear to a child's troubles will
internalize that compassionate behavior, and down the road, the grandchildren
will imitate that same behavior.
Kornhaber remarks that, as the family elders, grandpas can
take the lead on establishing periodic family conferences to discuss issues
that will have an impact on all family members, such as a family move or
grandparents moving to a retirement community. "People often do these
things automatically without thinking about the emotional and spiritual price
they're paying, so it's important at least to discuss such changes." In other words, grandpas can be very
instrumental in being the glue that hold the family together in times of
changes. I have found that due to my
personal life changes and experiences that I am able to explain many
possibilities that I may not have been able to do in the past. To my grandchildren, it presents a completely
new paradigm.
Therefore, grandpas and grandchildren have a need to connect
at a very basic level. For grandchildren, grandpas are the echoes of the
child's emotional well-being. I know
personally that as a grandpa my arms are always open. There is no waiting.
Grandpa always says, 'Come to me. I want to hear your voice. I want to touch you.
I want to see you smile.' For me as a,
grandpa, this is a need for an intimate connection which comes from an
awareness of my own mortality. For me, this allows for the opportunity to
establish a close relationship with a grandchild which allows me to leave a
part of myself with my grandchildren. I firmly believe and have personally seen
that the more time that I as a grandpa and grandchild share our undivided
attention together, the more my grandkids immerse my experiences their heart
and their mind.
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