Mel Feller - A Grandpa's Love

As a grandfather, Mel Feller believes that setting a good example for your grandchildren may seem like a no-brainer; nonetheless, grandparents are able to teach some real life skills. Often grandparents can spend more quiet time with grandkids than parents are able to. Sitting, talking and really listening to your grandchildren as you share life lessons can make a big difference in how they live their lives and often they will listen to you when they will not listen to their parents.

Tuesday, February 5, 2019

Mel Feller Looks at Being a Grandpa and Keeping up with Young Grandkids

Mel is the President/Founder of Mel Feller Seminars with Coaching for Success 360, Inc. and Mel Feller Coaching. Mel Feller a Texas- Utah Innovator and Investor. Currently an MBA Candidate.

As I think of my own life, it may be the additional time that grandpas have after their own children are grown and out of the house or the excitement in sharing an interest or hobby with a younger person. On the other hand, maybe we as grandpas just have more energy when the time spent with an overactive grandchild is limited and that they will be going home afterward. Whatever the reason, grandpas, just want to be a kid again, seem to be very much a part of the activities of their grandchildren.

Grandpas Need to Be a Role Model

With the many recent reports of increased obesity among children in our society, it is very important for grandpas to encourage increased activity in their grandchildren’s daily lives. Poor nutrition and a sedentary lifestyle lead to overweight and unfit children. Grandpas can improve those statistics with activities that increase their grandchildren’s fitness levels beginning at an early age and continuing to adulthood.

Those activities may vary depending on the age of the child and the interests of both the grandpa and the grandchild. For example, a baby is perfect for a nice walk with a stroller or jogger. All of the new equipment available for babies these days allows ease in walking, running and bike riding. Baby no longer inhibit daily exercise, but rather enhances the experience. I know that when my oldest granddaughter Rachael was small it was daily wagon rides from grandpa’s house to her house! It helped that my daughter and son-in-law lived a few houses up the street. Oh those memories!

For another great experience with grandchildren this age, try a trip to the park. All the climbing, digging and swinging is just right for an active toddler. Some supervision is required of course, but much of the enjoyment comes from watching. I would attend my youngest daughters Soccer games and slip over with Rachael to play. Older children gladly participate as well. There is always something to try when a swing and slide are involved. It is also a great place to meet other grandpas.

As the grandchildren grow older, there are many more activities, and grandpas are great teachers. They are more than willing to share their own interests and talents with their grandchildren whether it is in golf, bowling, ping-pong, tennis or especially fishing. All of these are activities that grandchildren relish with enthusiasm and carry with them the rest of their lives. How many adults claim they first were first introduced to a sport or a particular skill from a grandpa? Many grateful adults learned skills they use throughout their lifetimes from patient grandpas who always have something to share.

Moreover, how many grandchildren remember a weekend of camping and fishing with grandpas? There are so many activities that grandpas are able to share with grandchildren, providing not only hours of fun but also educational opportunities as well.

Grandpas You Must Show Your Support

Of course, there is nothing quite as special as having grandpa in the cheering section during a game. Whether it is a game of soccer, football, basketball, baseball or a dance recital, grandpas make the event extra special. It is not only a time for pride and cheers but also an opportunity to meet other parents and grandparents who share the same experience. It is a time to socialize and build memories!

As the grandchildren get older, fitness activities bring an even more special bond. Those activities become a time to talk, share and become acquainted with that unique and special person known as your grandchild. Walks, sporting events, both as spectator and as participant, games of chess, badminton, dancing or horseshoes provide an opportunity for conversation.

I fully believe that grandpas are special people for teens and young adults, not only for their inspiration and their support but also for their advice and teaching. Teens will listen to a grandpa even when they are reluctant to hear a parent’s opinion. Fitness activities are the perfect openings for conversations about important topics regarding life.

Therefore, whenever grandpas and grandchildren are involved in activities, remember it is about bonding, sharing knowledge, appreciation, conversation and pride as well as fitness. That is why I love being a grandpa!!

Mel Feller Looks at Grandpa’s Rules

Mel is the President/Founder of Mel Feller Seminars with Coaching for Success 360, Inc. and Mel Feller Coaching. Mel Feller a Texas- Utah Innovator and Investor. Best of all a Father and a Grandpa.

The benefits to this approach are threefold. First, your request is very specific, and thus can be understood by your child. Second, you are acknowledging your child’s wants and needs at the same time that you are stating your wants and needs. Third, you are approaching the issue in a way that invites your child to cooperate. Here is how it works:

You may ________ after you __________.

You may play outside after you do the dishes.

You may watch a movie after you do your homework.

We will read a story after you put your pajamas on.

As soon as you scoop the cat litter, you can play your new computer game.

An added benefit to using Grandpa’s Rule is that it eliminates the need to use “fighting words.” Fighting words are those that start a battle even before the rest of the sentence is heard — words such as, you cannot, Do not, No and Stop!

Notice how the choice of words affects the feeling conveyed by these requests:

You cannot go outside until you finish your homework.

Yes, you can go outside just as soon as you finish your homework.

Do not eat that cookie until after your dinner.

Yes, you can have a cookie right after dinner.

No, you cannot go to Jimmy’s house.

You can go to Jimmy’s house on Saturday, after soccer practice.

As you can see, Grandpa’s rule allows you to use positive communication while being very specific about what you want. Moreover, the best thing is — it works!

Monday, February 4, 2019

Mel Feller and Multiple Secrets To Success

Mel is the President/Founder of Mel Feller Seminars with Coaching for Success 360, Inc. and Mel Feller Coaching. Mel Feller maintains offices in Texas, Oklahoma and in Utah.

Like you, leadership expert and business author Mel Feller has seen the word leadership defined numerous ways over the years. Is it charisma and positive thinking? Pinstripes and red power ties? Decisiveness? Is it all about the situation? Is it meant only for the elite who rise to the top? Alternatively, is there a different story?

With over three decades of executive coaching, speaking, and most importantly, real-life, in-the-trenches business experience, his view is radically different. Mel Feller appreciates, and shares with listeners, that leadership is a moment-to-moment choice and not about title, tenure or position. Leadership is for everyone, every day. It is how we should live our life

Mel Feller sometimes referred to as the “Provocateur” for his ability to stir up a group or as the “People Whisperer” for his coaching skill that brings out the best in people, is known for his practical, street-savvy style; Mel Feller’s fusion of real-life stories and his conversational techniques connect with his audience at an intimate, intense and individual level.

He has shared the stage with U.S. Presidents Reagan, Bush and Clinton, U.S. Senators Jake Garn, Ted Kennedy, Robert Byrd, Orrin Hatch, John Glenn and Bob Dole. Hollywood stars such as Martin Sheen, Ben Johnson, John Agar, Royal Dano and Harry Cary Jr., and business greats such as Zig Ziglar, Robert Kiyosaki, Charles Givens, Tom Hopkins, Stephen Covey, Adam Ginsberg and Susie Orman. Mel also hosts his own radio show in Texas called “Multiple Secrets to Success” that focuses on both personal and professional tools in order to excel in life and business.

Mel Feller has over three decades of coaching and consulting experience in diverse industries, which provides a rich framework for his organizational insights and creative solutions. He brings a thoughtful approach to his work, carefully integrating both his coaching and consulting skills and abilities. When consulting, his focus is on “what you are doing” (i.e., goal setting, problem solving, taking action and achieving results). When coaching, his focus is on “who you are being” (i.e., how you are leading, aligning your values and tapping your gifts). As a client, you will become more consciously aware of how paying attention to – and balancing both – are critically important to your success.

Monday, January 21, 2019

Mel Feller a Business Success Advisor and Mentor as well as a Texas and Utah Entrepreneur and Grandpa

Mel Feller a Business Success Advisor and Mentor as well as a Texas and Utah Entrepreneur

Mel Feller & Coaching For Success 360 a Texas-Utah Company

Mel Feller, MPA, MHR with Offices in Texas and in Utah

Mel Feller Seminars, Coaching For Success 360 Inc. /Mel Feller Coaching

See www.melfellersuccessstories.com and www.melfeller.com

Entrepreneurialism is defined as starting new businesses, or getting involved with new ventures or ideas. An example of entrepreneurialism is starting new businesses and always being involved in investing in the latest ventures.

Entrepreneurship is a French word meaning “one who undertakes innovations, finance and business acumen in an effort to transform innovations into economic goods. “ This may result an entirely new enterprise or may be part of revitalizing a mature organization in response to a perceived opportunity or possible gap in the market. The innovation piece of the process then means that there is always some level of creativity or new thinking, and not just a “me-too” approach or one that offers very little that is different.

Naturally, entrepreneurial activities can be substantially different depending on the type of organization being started. Entrepreneurship ranges in scale from solo projects (even involving the entrepreneur only part-time) to major undertakings creating many job opportunities. Small entrepreneurial activities may involve establishing “trade” businesses (such as starting a plumbing, carpentry, personal coaching or hairdressing business, for example). Larger or more significant entrepreneurial activities could involve a new manufacturing process or a very new technology offering, for example.

Smaller entrepreneurial businesses may need only limited financing to get them off the ground or need only relatively minor loans to get them up and running. However, many “high value” entrepreneurial ventures seek venture capital or “angel funding” (seed money) in order to raise capital to build the business or popularize the approach.

What traits do entrepreneurs have?

A definition of an “entrepreneur” (which also stresses the need for innovation) is as follows:

“An innovator who establishes a new business offering, new or existing products or services for the reward of profit.” Entrepreneurs generally have strong beliefs about market opportunities and willingly accept a high level of personal, professional and financial risk. An entrepreneur possesses a variety of different characteristics that provide a skill set for achieving success and a high level of reward.

According to many research studies of successful entrepreneurs, there are a number of traits that are common to these individuals. A few of the most common traits, which emerge, are:

Independence — the desire to be his or her own boss.
Self-Discipline — the way these people trained or equipped themselves to meet certain goals.
Persistence — never showing discouragement, always thinking of new ways to approach a problem and acting on ideas.
Creativity — the ability to come up with clever or unusual but workable solutions.
Hard Work — being capable of doing the work needed consistently and seeming to enjoy it.
Motivation — the mental and physical drive to succeed, to accomplish chosen tasks on his or her own terms.
Confidence — having a firm belief in his or her own capabilities and his or her chances of success.
Willingness to Take Risks — the readiness to sacrifice his or her own financial security, if need be, in order to accomplish his or her goals (especially at the outset).
Communication Skills — the ability to express him or herself well and to understand others so that ideas can be shared.

Who can be an entrepreneur?

Becoming an entrepreneur is theoretically an option for everyone but many are reluctant to make this choice. Let’s therefore explore the facts and the myths that exist about entrepreneurship.

Research, conducted by the Warwick Business School in the UK, suggests that the average entrepreneur or founder of a new enterprise is married (over 75% are), has children, and worked for many years at a larger company or for someone else before branching out and starting his or her own business.

Although it varies according to the type of entrepreneurial business, across all categories, around 75% of entrepreneurs are men and 25% are women. However, those women who do set up and run new enterprises have equivalent levels of success when compared to men.

Here are a few other statistics to consider:

65% of existing entrepreneurs have at least one child when they launch their first business.
Over 70% of entrepreneurs come from middle class backgrounds.
40% of entrepreneurs are first-born children.
Over 60% of new entrepreneurs were the first ones in their family to launch a business.
Less than half of the parents of entrepreneurs had a college or advanced degree.
More than three-quarters of entrepreneurs worked for someone else for at least six years before launching their business.
20% of successful entrepreneurs had engaged in some kind of entrepreneurial activity in their youth or teenage years
70% of entrepreneurs use personal savings as a main source of funding for their first business. Even in subsequent start-ups, more than half of the entrepreneurs rely on their personal savings.
Friends and family are a primary source of funding for around 10% of entrepreneurs.
Bank loans are a primary source of funding for around 15% of entrepreneurs.
Venture capital and private/angel investments clearly play a role in start-ups but only for a few entrepreneurs. Only 10% receive venture capital, and 10% receive angel financing.

Summary

An entrepreneurial lifestyle is not for everyone but if do you will need to have the temperament for the task and be prepared to perform many roles and/or wear many hats. As the statistics above indicate, there are a number of common characteristics of entrepreneurs but none of these needs to be an inhibitor if an individual is truly committed to the cause and has a good idea that they want to personally take to market.

Mel Feller is committed to serving. In the Texas / Utah community, he chairs several organizations. Mel Feller volunteers his leadership at two churches in a variety of ways, including serving on council, bible study facilitator, and more.

Mel Feller has been a featured speaker for career professional is groups, business leaders and continuing education sessions, and aspiring business startups.

When he is not coaching, you can find Mel Feller reading, listening to podcasts, exercising, fishing, or with his kids and grandkids exploring the greatness God has gifted us all.

Mel Feller states, “An effective coach is someone who tells you what you may not want to hear, helps you navigate around your blind spots, and helps you identify opportunities…so that you can be who you’ve always known you can be” Mel Feller

Mel Feller’s purpose is to add tremendous value to those business owners/entrepreneurs by helping them reach their potential.

Mel Feller is an effective, charismatic and powerful speaker, corporate advisor, and best-selling author. In 1998, Mel founded Coaching for Success 360 to help professionals worldwide design subtle changes in their presentation, attitude and leadership style that increases their personal and professional effectiveness and subsequently their financial status. This also includes both real estate as an agent and/or investor. See www.melfeller.comand www.melfellersuccessstories.com . Now with offices both in Texas and Utah.

As a business, executive, personal development, and real estate coach, I work with a wide range of professionals and offer a highly personalized approach tailored to each individual in concert with the organizational environment. In a supportive atmosphere, I work to build trust and support the professional in the attainment of goals and measurable outcomes.

Friday, January 4, 2019

A Collection of Inspirational Quotes by Mel Feller

by Mel Feller

By Mel Feller, MPA, MHR

Mel Feller Seminars, Coaching For Success 360 Inc. /Mel Feller Coaching

Power, Success and Value Creation

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Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one’s values.

— Ayn Rand

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Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It’s not a day when you lounge around doing nothing; it’s when you’ve had everything to do and you’ve done it.

— Margaret Thatcher

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If we fail to nourish our souls, they wither, and without soul, life ceases to have meaning. The creative process shrivels in the absence of continual dialogue with the soul. And creativity is what makes life worth living.

— Marion Woodman

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Creativity is a central source of meaning in our lives… [and] when we are involved in it, we feel that we are living more fully than during the rest of life.

— Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

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Almost always the creative, dedicated minority has made the world better.

— Martin Luther King, Jr.

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A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life depend upon the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the measure as I have received and am still receiving.

— Albert Einstein

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And above all things, never think that you’re not good enough yourself. A man should never think that. My belief is that in life people will take you at your own reckoning.

— Isaac Asimov

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One person can make a difference, one person can change the world, but you must choose to do so. You must make the future or others will make it for you.

— J. Michael Straczynski

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The empires of the future are the empires of the mind.

— Winston Churchill

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If you think you can do a thing or you think you cannot do a thing, either way, you are right.

— Henry Ford

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Everyone who has ever taken a shower has had an idea. It’s the person who gets out of the shower, dries off, and does something about it that makes a difference.

— Nolan Bushnell

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New ideas pass through three periods: *It can’t be done, *It probably can be done, but it’s not worth doing, *I knew it was a good idea all along!

— Arthur C. Clarke

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You see things and you say why? But I dream things that never were; and I say why not?

— George Bernard Shaw

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Kites rise highest against the wind, not with it.

— Winston Churchill

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We can let circumstances rule us, or we can take charge and rule our lives from within.

— Earl Nightingale

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I cannot discover that anyone knows enough to say definitely what is and what is not possible.

— Henry Ford

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The problems we have today cannot be solved, by thinking the way we thought — when we created them.

— Albert Einstein

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If you’re proactive, you don’t have to wait for circumstances or other people to create perspective expanding experiences. You can consciously create your own.

— Stephen Covey

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If we all worked on the assumption that what is accepted as true is really true, there would be little hope for advance.

— Orville Wright

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The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible.

— Arthur C. Clarke

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No concept man forms is valid unless he integrates it without contradiction into the sum of his knowledge.

— Ayn Rand

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Trinity: No-one has ever done anything like this before.

Neo: That’s why it’s going to work.

— The Matrix, Wachowski Brothers, Warner Brothers Studios

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Self Authority

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Salute no man along the highway.

— Jesus

One of the best expressions of self-authority ever written. We’re sure there are many interpretations as to what that phrase means, but we interpret it as, don’t consider any person you meet or pass to be of higher authority than yourself. That’s why we think it is one of the best expressions of self-authority ever written. Throughout history, leaders and conquerors — whether they were kings, clergy, or Roman soldiers — have made their subjects either salute them as they passed, or the people were made to take a submissive posture by lowering the head and gaze.

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You shall no longer take things at second or third hand, nor look through the eyes of the dead, nor feed on the specters of books. You shall not look through my eyes either, not take things from me, you shall listen to all sides and filter them through yourself.

— Walt Whitman

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Self-education is, I firmly believe, the only kind of education there is.

— Isaac Asimov

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Spoon feeding in the long run teaches us nothing but the shape of the spoon.

— E.M. Forster

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Commander Lock: Not everyone believes what you do Morpheus.

Morpheus: My beliefs do not require them to.

— The Matrix Reloaded, Wachowski Brothers, Warner Brothers Studios

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Freedom

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Government is not reason, it is not eloquence, it is force; like fire, a troublesome servant and a fearful master. Never for a moment should it be left to irresponsible action.

— George Washington

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Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding.

— Albert Einstein

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Individual rights are not subject to a public vote; a majority has no right to vote away the rights of a minority; the political function of rights is precisely to protect minorities from oppression by majorities.

— Ayn Rand

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They that can give up essential liberty to purchase a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty or safety.

— Benjamin Franklin

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In order to become the master, the politician poses as the servant.

— Charles de Gaulle

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Democracy: In which you say what you like and do what you’re told.

— Dave Barry

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A fool is very dangerous when in power.

— Denis Fonvizin

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A patriot must always be ready to defend his country against his government.

— Edward Abbey

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Only the educated are free.

— Epictetus

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Democracy is based on the assumption that a million men are wiser than one man. How’s that again? I missed something.

— Excerpt from the notebooks of Lazarus Long, from

Robert Heinlein’s Time Enough for Love

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It’s dangerous to be right when the government is wrong.

— Francois Marie Arouet Voltaire

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The best argument against democracy is a five minute conversation with the average voter.

— Winston Churchill

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Thinking men cannot be ruled.

— Ayn Rand

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Reality and the Future

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Science is a mechanism, a way of trying to improve your knowledge of nature. It’s a system for testing your thoughts against the universe, and seeing whether they match.

— Isaac Asimov

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The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom.

— Isaac Asimov

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Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic.

— Arthur C. Clarke

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Any sufficiently advanced extraterrestrial intelligence is indistinguishable from God.

— Shermer’s Last Law

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I don’t want to become immortal through my work. I want to become immortal through not dying.

— Woody Allen

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In considering the future society, let us assume that 1) there will be no nuclear war; 2) the population will increase but not disastrously; and 3) the trend toward automation will continue. In that case, the kind of work that will be done in the future will tend to be more and more that of supervision of the machinery that does the real work…. Because the type of work will be just as applicable to women as to men, the trend toward sexual equality will be accelerated. This means there will be more and more leisure in the world, and the leisure will have to be filled because doing nothing is a terrible chore and very painful for any mind above that of an idiot. This means there will be a great emphasis on creativity and the purveying of amusement.

— Isaac Asimov, 1969

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It may be that our role on this planet is not to worship God, but to create him.

— Arthur C. Clarke

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The weak only appear weak because we are on our knees. Let us rise!

— John Baker

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